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4 Ways Managers Handle Workplace Errors – Which Way is the Right Way?

HARD goals are called HARD goals for a good reason. They should challenge even your best people to reach beyond what’s tried and tested and comfortable; in other words, the status quo. And, like any tough challenge, sometimes before success is reached, folks make mistakes, freeze up, doubt their abilities or shy away from accountability.

When it comes to HARD goals, errors are inevitable and to be expected, but critical errors left uncorrected are unacceptable. Mistakes left unaddressed are likely to be repeated. This translates to heavy frustration on your part and unnecessary performance limitations on the part of your employees. Both of which have no place in a Hundred Percenter workplace.

When mistakes happen, there are typically four ways the situation can go:

  1. The mistake is never discussed, or the employee is gently reprimanded, neither approach makes any impact whatsoever and the mistake is soon repeated. (The Appeaser)
  2. The employee is scolded unreasonably hard and thus becomes less concerned with improvement and more concerned with vengeance which creates additional performance problems. (The Intimidator)
  3. The mistake is ignored, often with the hope that it will fix itself. (The Avoider).
  4. The employee is called on the error and then guided on what can be done to correct and prevent it from happening again; thus inspiring a desire to make a change that results in Hundred Percenter performance. (The 100% Leader)

100 % Leaders aren’t afraid to constructively critique employee performance when warranted. But, they understand there’s a fine balance between making corrections that do nothing, corrections that push good employees to Hundred Percenter performance, and corrections that push good employees to either stop trying or send them barreling out the door. No one welcomes a humiliating scolding or a correction that is no more than a harsh analysis of the problem. It makes most people defensive, and once the walls of defensiveness spring up, chances of willing improvement drop into the negative digits.

You may want to say, “Tim, this HARD goal requires strict attention to detail and your organizational skills are notoriously lousy. If you don’t clean up your act, the whole team will suffer because of it.” It may be the truth, and probably you and everyone who has known Tim since the first grade knows it, but it won’t get Hundred Percenter results. You might hurt Tim’s feelings and push him to get his act together–temporarily. But, he’s probably cursing you under his breath for your insensitive approach and plotting all the ways he can get back at you for publicly making him look like an idiot.

It’s just as ineffective to use any of the popular softening “tricks” such as “criticize the action, not the person”, or “layer the constructive feedback with praise to make it sound kinder and gentler.” These techniques don’t work and they have a tendency to backfire and produce the opposite results of what you want.

Bottom line, when good people mess up, they get it, and they feel bad about it. They’re not racing down the halls, kicking up their heels, and shouting, “Whoopee! I gave our best client misinformation and he pulled his account!” And if they are, well, you’ve got a whole different set of problems on your hands.

When good employees make mistakes, whether they are executing HARD goals or going about their day-to-day performance, they usually have an awareness that things didn’t go right. It may be conscious or subconscious, but in most cases, they know that on some level they messed up. (Getting people to come to terms with an error and admit it outright may be a bit more psychologically involved, but we’ll get to that in a minute). The thing to remember is that chances are really good that your best people, when they mess up, have already spent some time sweating out their feelings of lousy self worth and the repercussions they may face for having made the mistake. So they don’t need you to make them feel any worse; they are already doing a really good job of that on their own.

Ultimately, your good performers; your Hundred Percenters, and those with potential to be the same, want to move forward from the mistake and redeem themselves. What they do need from you is some guidance on why the error happened, how to correct it, and how to keep it from happening again. And through it all, they want to be treated with respect. After all, these folks have a history of good or promising performance. And mistake or no mistake, that does count for something.

What To Do When Employees Make Excuses

Excuses are very easy to fix. They are motivated by a fear of being blamed, so all you have to do is remove the presumption of blame and excuses generally go away.

Years ago, I destroyed my car. Through a combination of abusive driving and ignoring certain warnings, I basically blew up the engine. The car died while I was on a highway, I had to get towed 100 miles, and it cost me thousands of dollars to fix.

When I walked in the door that night and explained everything to my wife, I had a list of world-class excuses ready to go. After all, I deserved blame; I was totally at fault for both killing my car and being a total moron. But my wife looked at me and said, “So when do you pick up your car?” I don’t want to infer that she was happy; she clearly understood I was a moron, but she analyzed the situation and saw that blame wasn’t going to get the car back any faster, nor was it going to teach me any more lessons than I had already taught myself. (It does help that I’m married to an A-List clinical psychologist with the patience of Job).

I didn’t need my excuses because I wasn’t being blamed (I wasn’t being excused, but I wasn’t being blamed). My wife did monitor my car maintenance for a while (she even got creative with Family Car Day, where we both take our cars in for servicing and then go out to a fun breakfast with the kids), and today my car could star in commercials for a 50-point Jiffy Lube check.

When you hear lots of excuses from your employees, it means they’re under the impression that you’re blaming them or about to blame them (you may not actually be doing any blaming, but that’s what they’ve internalized). The simple resolve is to say, “I’m not interested in fixing any blame, I’m only interested in fixing the problem.”

Does this mean you excuse the behavior? Of course not. You’re still going to track mistakes and failures, and too many may result in poor reviews, action plans and even dismissal. But the moment you hear an excuse, your concern has to be fixing the issue. If you’ve got a project on deadline that needs to get out the door ASAP, you can do your employee write-up 15 minutes later. It’s far more critical to act immediately to fix the problem and deliver the project.

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The 5 Stages of Employee Accountability

Did you know the 5 stages of employee accountability follow a similar pattern to the well-known stages of grief (anger, bargaining, etc.)?

If you’ve ever experienced a significant loss or witnessed someone who has, you already know that humans typically don’t find acceptance immediately; instead we journey through a series of emotional stages until we finally arrive at Acceptance.

Well, after years of research with thousands of employees, we’ve discovered that the stages of employee accountability also follow very clear stages (just like the multiple stages of grief).

Think about it: When you’re trying to get your employees or colleagues to become more accountable, it’s not like flipping a switch. There are 5 stages of accountability, and people progress through each one in a logical flow. If you don’t know what stage your employees are in right now, it’s impossible to make them more accountable.

The four stages leading up to Accountability are as follows:

These reactions tend to follow a certain logical flow (i.e. Denial begets Blame, which evolves into Excuses, which is followed by Anxiety). Of course, not everyone evolves through these stages in perfect order. Some people jump back and forth in a roller-coaster ride of reaction. Others may never enter Denial, but spend most of their days in Anxiety or Excuses, and they may even have situational-specific reactions (e.g. certain feedback engenders Blame while other feedback is met with Accountability). But as the illustration above shows, there is a natural logic to the progression of these stages, and it’s absolutely essential for effective leaders to understand.

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Denial

The opposite of Accountability tends to be Denial. If you’ve ever heard people say, “That rule doesn’t apply to me,” or “My performance was just fine” (even when it wasn’t), you’ve experienced Denial. These are folks who are so defensive and walled-off, or their egos are so fragile, that they’re simply not ready for feedback. They’re in effect saying, “There’s no problem; my performance was absolutely fine. If you don’t like the results, that’s a problem with your judgment, not my performance.”

Blame

Once you’ve pierced the veil of Denial, people often exhibit Blame. Blame is the unspoken acknowledgment that constructive feedback is warranted (i.e. the outcomes were subpar), coupled with an unwillingness to admit any personal fault. You’ll hear things like, “Ok, maybe the results weren’t perfect, but if you want to know where the problem is, go ask Accounting why they didn’t get the right data to my team before the deadline.” Whenever you hear an admission of subpar results, followed by somebody else’s name (or department), you’re hearing Blame. [Note: This example presumes you're not in, and don't control, Accounting].

Excuses

After Blame comes Excuses. An excuse is an admission of subpar results plus an admission of fault (insofar as no other person is getting named). But a person who makes Excuses isn’t quite ready for Accountability. The admission of fault is coupled with a host of extenuating factors that no normal human possibly could have overcome. Unlike Blame, it won’t be another person or department that gets thrown under the bus, but your servers, procedures, phone systems, etc. will take a beating. “I didn’t get the message,” or “The server crashed just as I finished the report,” or “We ran out of supplies,” are all variations on Excuses.

Anxiety

After Denial, Blame and Excuses, the final stage before Accountability is often Anxiety. The actual subpar performance and culpability have been fully acknowledged, but the person lacks the readiness to move forward and improve future performance. People in Anxiety say things like, “There’s no way we’ll finish in time,” or “We’ve tried to fix this before and it just didn’t work.” These folks get that they’re the ones who need to improve, but they lack confidence (they’re often freaked out) that they’ll be able to make the required improvements.

There’s a lot of psychology behind why people try and fall back on Denial, Blame and Excuses and Anxiety instead of just doing what’s asked of them. But you don’t need to climb inside your employees’ heads to bring them up to Accountability. You can shut down the denial, blame, excuses and anxiety; with 4 powerful conversations.

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Pixar’s Secret for Delivering Tough Feedback

If you have kids, you know Pixar (the animation studio that made Toy Story, Finding Nemo, Cars, A Bug’s Life, and more). By any measure, they’re amazingly successful; kids love their movies, their films have grossed more than $6 billion, and they’ve won 24 Academy Awards. But that’s not what makes Pixar extraordinary. Here’s what does: Their movies never flop. Most filmmakers — even hugely successful ones — have a dud here and there. Not Pixar. And we’ve identified one of their keys to success that can be applied to your organization: Learn how to give brutally honest feedback.

At Pixar, when a director hits a snag on a film, they immediately call in the “brain trust.” This is a group of brilliant senior filmmakers who come in, look at the film in progress and give brutally honest feedback for about two hours. As President Ed Catmull says, “it’s far better to learn about problems when there’s still time to fix them than from the audience after it’s too late.”

Now, don’t think the brain trust is the “secret” mentioned in the title of this article; it’s not. There’s another critical piece. Because if having a “brain trust” rip apart your ideas sounds painful, surprisingly, it isn’t at Pixar. At most companies it would be gut-wrenching, but Pixar discovered an incredible technique that makes the process both productive and painless.

At first, they didn’t understand their own secret. The brain trust was working great, but when they tried to export the concept to areas beyond directors and producers (like technical areas), it flopped. Instead of breakthrough innovation, they got bruised egos, defensiveness, even anger.

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Why didn’t the brain trust work in other areas? What was the “secret” that allowed directors to receive brutally honest feedback without feeling angry or defensive? Simple: The brain trust has no authority. There are no mandatory notes, and the brain trust has no authority over the person to whom they’re giving feedback. The people receiving feedback are the only ones responsible for making a great movie, so they’re under no obligation to take the feedback. And here’s the crazy psychological twist: Because they’re under no obligation to take the feedback, of course, they take a lot of it.

Removing formal authority, losing the hierarchical relationships, liberates both the giver and receiver of feedback. No matter how tough the feedback is, if you remove the power dynamics, the typical problems with defensiveness, anger, etc., immediately dissipate.

If I tell my kids to eat their green beans, they’ll fight me every step of the way. But if I shut up and just leave them alone, they’ll eat them all. They love green beans. But if I make it a power struggle, they’ll stop eating them just to exert control. The exact same thing happens in professional situations. Make it a power struggle, and people will ignore your feedback. But remove the forced obligation, and they’ll be thrilled to take your ideas. [In our upcoming webinar called 5 Secrets of Truly Innovative Cultures we'll give you lots more techniques for unleashing your employees' innovative potential].

The Entrepreneurs Organization and the Young Presidents Organization have made the same discovery. These are two of the most elite networks for business owners and CEOs, with thousands of members around the globe. At the heart of both groups is a monthly meeting with about 10 members called “forum.” (In any city, there could be dozens of forums meeting each month). During forum, the members present challenges they’re facing, and their peers offer their thoughts.

But here’s the trick: They don’t offer advice; they offer experience. When a CEO is presenting a problem, the other CEOs’ natural inclination is to tell them what to do (that’s a common personality trait for executives). If you hear a friend tell you about a problem, it’s human nature to respond with “what you should do is,”

However, there’s a problem with telling CEOs — or anyone for that matter — what to do: They get defensive. If you say “what you should do is,” they’re likely to reply “but that won’t work because,” And that’s a giant red flag of defensiveness (which ultimately leads to anger and damaged relationships — not solutions). So instead, these CEOs discovered that when they don’t say “you should do,” and instead say “what I did was,” the power dynamic is removed and the walls of defensiveness crumble.

By sharing only their own experiences — good, bad or mixed — and not their advice, they remove any obligation on the recipient’s part to do anything with the feedback. Just like at Pixar, it removes the power dynamic. The recipients are not under attack, they’re not being disparaged, and they’re not having their arms twisted. And because they’re free from obligation, their minds are open to hearing their peers’ new and wonderful ideas.

When you get really smart people sharing their best ideas, and you get everyone else listening to those ideas, you will have an amazingly innovative culture. Like Pixar, you’ll fix problems long before they lead to a flop.

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Advice Is Not Constructive Feedback

Who started the damaging rumor that tough feedback is easier to take when it’s delivered in a warm and fuzzy package? Sandwiching difficult feedback (“your work is unacceptable”) between niceties (“but you’re always on time and everyone here loves you”) is what I call the Compliment Sandwich. It may seem kinder, but it’s guaranteed that the only message being heard is the positive one. Equally counter productive is using words like “should”, “would”, “ought”, “gotta”, “must” and “try”, all which turn constructive feedback into advice.

It may “feel” nicer to make a correction by phrasing it as advice, “If it were me, I’d go with some brighter colors on that report.” However, there’s nothing in that statement that indicates a mandatory action. It’s just advice, and when an employee fails to take that advice (after all, it sounds optional), the penalty is often harsher to take than it would have been to just hear up front; “You must use brighter colors on that report.”

Which would you prefer: a) staying late to rewrite a report because the boss made the directions sound optional and then freaked out when you didn’t take his advice or b) leaving on time because you were told what the boss wanted from the get go?

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There are five core reasons advice doesn’t work as constructive feedback:

#1: Judgment- Giving advice sends a message that says, “You’re obviously not as smart as I am or you would have thought of this already.”

#2: Directive- As the boss, you have the right (and an obligation) to be directive. But when you deliver directions as advice, it comes off sounding like a recommendation, and that leads to unclear directions.

#3: Inflexibility- Advice offers two choices: take the advice or don’t take the advice. The former tends to incite resentment and the latter fear. A direct order is much easier for the ego to take.

#4: Narcissism- Admit it, we’ve all, at one time or another said, “If it were me, I’d do it this way,” not because it “has” to be done that way, but rather to fill a personal emotional need. There’s nothing constructive about that.

#5: Unsolicited- Unless someone has asked to be judged, corrected or directed (and not many of us do), being on the receiving end of advice typically raises the impenetrable walls of defensiveness. Which means nothing is being heard.

There’s one golden rule for delivering constructive feedback: If something is mandatory, where an employee will face repercussion if they don’t do it an exact way, don’t even think about softening directions and corrections. That means no Compliment Sandwiches and no advice; just the facts. In the end, upon being rewarded for a job well done, your employees will thank you.

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Motivating Middle Performers

Most leaders assume that middle performers are already doing the best they can, and so dismiss taking any action to improve their performance. Middle performers, in turn, internalize this assumption and stop trying to be anything more than what they already are.

Employees need feedback, both good and bad, in order to succeed. Middle performers typically account for 70 percent of the workforce. This translates to two-thirds of your employee base that, if you are like most leaders, by the very merit of not being told whether they are doing “good” or “bad,” are being encouraged to tread water at only average performance levels.

While it is likely that a few of your middle performers simply do not have any more to give, most of them, for reasons we will explore, have substantial unrecognized potential. In other words, middle performers absolutely have the ability to tip the scales of success in your favor. As a leader, it is your job to uncover this hidden talent and motivate middle performers to reach towards higher performance.

It sends a powerful message when you tell a middle performer, “You’ve got what it takes. Go ahead and run with this. I trust you.” When you can say these words with conviction, and a middle performer suddenly realizes they can be more than what they currently are, it’s a powerful moment for them, for you as a leader, and for the organization as a whole. You may even find that when given a little time and attention, middle performers will rise considerably on the performance curve and become high performers.

Middle performers are not some amorphous group that can be lumped into a single category and uniformly addressed. There are five critical reasons why middle performers remain middle performers, and we’ve created a grouping for each. In the course of working day-to-day with these folks, you should be able to pick out the patterns and key elements that assign them to one of these five groups. If not, it’s time to get out there and get to know your middle performers. Most of them are eager to be noticed and heard, and with just a little prompting, they’ll probably tell you exactly what you need to know. Let’s take a look at these middle performer groups and explore what can be done to maximize their hidden potential.

Maxed Out
The first group consists of employees that are simply maxed out. These are the folks who are perfectly competent at doing what they’ve always done, but who are consistently unable to produce when given more challenging tasks. There may have been a time when those in the “maxed out” group had a desire to be high performers, but they’ve since reached a pinnacle of performance they’re unable to eclipse. Most leaders mistakenly assume that all middle performers belong to this group; however, only 10 to 15 percent of those in the middle are truly maxed out.

It’s a poor use of a leader’s time to try and develop those in the “maxed out” group. This is not to say this group of middle performers is incapable of bringing value to an organization. Not everyone can run a four-minute mile, but this does not mean that those who can’t should give up running. If this were the case, Mark, by his own admission, would never have started running, let alone plodded his way through a marathon! The “maxed out” are steady, reliable employees that meet expectations and tend to be generally happy where they are. They may not win the race, but they definitely know the way to the finish line. Investing time to develop “maxed out” employees may be unwise, but remember, these folks still have Shoves and Tugs that need to be recognized and acknowledged if you hope to retain them.

Don’t Know How
The employees that make up the second group are those that just don’t know how to reach high performer status. They seem to be going full steam ahead, but somehow always fall short of distinguished performance. The “don’t know how” middle performers are often stuck in this performance rut due to working for leaders that don’t take the time to clearly state high performance expectations—or any expectations at all. This is often a result of the afore mentioned misconception that middle performers have no more to give, hence the belief that it is a poor use of time to try and develop any of them. And so the cycle of middle performance begins.

As discussed in our other articles, a leader will never successfully create a high performance workplace if he or she does not clearly communicate expectations. Even a high performer is going to be at a loss for how to meet the mark if told, “Sales are just not good enough. I need to see improvement.” Without knowing how much improvement and by when, the “don’t know how” middle performer may give what he or she thinks is high performer effort, only to be met by dissatisfaction from the boss. Ongoing, this situation becomes a confusing hit or miss scenario where the employee is never sure whether or not they are on target. They start viewing their leaders as capricious, and making the effort to try and please them becomes obsolete.

No Confidence
Middle performers that lack confidence in their ability to achieve high performer status make up the third group. By and large, this situation exists due to an erroneous notion of what defines a high performer. When a leader’s time and attention is primarily focused on combating low performers and praising high performers, a very clear, although often inaccurate, message of “good” and “bad” is absorbed by those in the middle. By merit of the positive attention they receive; high performers can appear to be perched on a pedestal that seems impossible to reach. Even though many middle performers possess the skills and attitude of a high performer, they simply do not see themselves as having what it takes to make the climb to the top.
As a leader, there is much you can do to induce “no confidence” middle performers to make the climb to higher performance. If employees don’t get regular feedback from the boss, they are left to their own devices to figure out how they are doing with respect to performance. And if communicating displeasure over negative performance seems to come easier to you than giving positive feedback over a job well done (as is the case with many leaders), you are actually promoting negative reinforcement that will have an equally negative effect on getting middle performers to shoot higher.

Because middle performers tend to discount their own accomplishments, it is especially important to take the time to comment on the good work being done by this group of employees. Granted, their efforts may not be in the same realm as high performers, but their positive actions warrant your attention nonetheless. This is your opportunity to set the record straight that middle performers are of value to the company, and to start turning their confidence levels around.

Costs Are too High
A common misconception among some middle performers is that being a high performer goes hand-in-hand with being a chronic workaholic. The fourth group of middle performers refrains from giving their all as they foresee that the costs of being a high performer are just too high. It may be that they have been witness to a few high performers that compulsively feel the need to work, and who, in doing so, embrace long hours and weekends at the office. It may also be that this group of middle performers does not fully understand what the expectations of high performance are, and so imagine that the only way to move to the next level of performance is to trade personal life and outside interests for increased work time.

The “costs are too high” middle performers are blocked from becoming high performers by their apprehension over the Shoves they think accompany the role. It may be that these Shoves are only hypothetical, and that you can easily assuage these concerns by talking these middle performers through their incorrect assumptions. However, there is always the chance that these high performer Shoves are in fact quite real. Once again, employees can provide a clear view to organizational problems of which you may not be aware. It is worth your while to ask your high performers, during your monthly or quarterly Shoves and Tugs conversation, if any of these shove factors are factual. You may uncover valuable information by which you can instigate some changes that not only will help you motivate middle performers to a higher level of production, but will have the added bonus of working to retain high performers.

Benefits Are Too Low
The fifth group of middle performers is comprised of those employees that believe the benefits of being a high performer are just too low. These are the folks that have the skills and attitude of a high performer, and who would be happy to do what it takes to move up to the next level, if only they could see the tangible benefit of doing so. They question each possibility of advancement, and if they foresee no favorable return, suspecting instead that the “rewards” will be factors such as a minimal pay increase, added hassle, and little to no promise of promotion, they turn away from making high performer efforts.

Not unlike the “costs are too high” middle performers, those in the “benefits are too low” group may simply be reacting to hypothetical conditions. In this situation, middle performers will be demotived by what they perceive to be a lack of Tugs. Once again, this may be valuable information that should be investigated with your high performers during Shoves and Tugs conversations. If you find that the suspicions of the “benefits are too low” middle performers are not valid, you will need to reinforce the actual benefits of high performance. And if they are valid, you will need to address that factor.

Make sure that high performer benefits are things that will work to motivate all your employees. If some or all of your high performers concur that the benefits really are not all that great, it’s time to consider making some changes that will retain your current high performers and induce middle performers to make the jump.

Stop Demotivating Before You Start Motivating

When people think about motivating employees, they’re usually thinking about ways to reward them. What carrots can be offered to get employees to work harder, what can we dangle in front of them to incent them to take the actions we desire? There are whole books written on ways to reward our employees, and multi-million dollar consulting engagements built on those books. Read More…